Interesting with so many things happening and so little real discussion. Another mass shooting, this time a 14 year old shooter with four dead at a school in Georgia. Immediately gun control became the issue, yet no one discusses the impact of mental health drugs with associated side effects or the other common ground whereby in the majority of these cases the shooter has a death wish stemming from a troubled past treated with mental health drugs. So why are we always discussing the tool used and not other potential connections?
This is not my main focus today but is really part of the confused in the title of my post. Take something simple such as I am going to do what is best for me compared to I will do what is best for everyone, my way, these are not the same meaning. The focus is best for, one best is focused on self where the second, best if focused on everyone; the method to accomplish the best is focused on what methods work best for me.
If I say your action is troubling and you come back telling me I said you were stupid or self-centered, that reaction rests on you, not on words I said. Saying it seems you are more concerned about job and money, does not say self-centered as a whole. It simply says in this instance I feel you are more concerned about these things the a greater whole.
We forget in language words are everything, how you react is resting solely on you. If I want to insult you I know how to do that and will do that if it is my intent to do so. I know how to say directly to someone they are stupid, ignorant, self-centered, etc. without hinting at what I want to say. I am not afraid to say those words directly to anyone and only to the person I am saying them about. I do not play the game of saying something behind someone’s back and if I say it to someone else I have always said it to the person I am saying it about first.
Right and wrong has become the way of the world today. Apologies but I do not come from that environment. I come from the environment that killing someone is a definitive wrong no matter the logical reason beyond having no choice where either one or the other will die. I like you am not looking forward to dying, not from fear, but because I enjoy life.
We each have ways of doing things, Whether I agree with how you do things it is never up to me to determine for you what is right or wrong. I will never judge your actions outside of absolute right and wrong and there are very few absolute right and wrong situation. Theft of property is a definitive wrong for any reason. Basically simple logic on definitive right and wrong. But other things I am no one to tell you what is right or wrong for you. As you are no one to tell me what is right or wrong for me.
Right and wrong becomes nothing more than how we do things. One thing that works for one person is not always going to work for another. What is right for one person is not always right for another as what is wrong for one person is not always wrong for another. Those for me are personal ethics. I cannot give you my personal ethics; you can only decide for yourself if my ethics are right for you. I know they are right for me and you cannot change what I’ve determined my ethics are.
In a society through the years that has changed from real communication and understanding to where people only associate with others who agree with them; has long gone away. Gone so long you have to be my age and older to understand how right life was then.
Imagine today expecting anyone where someone says they are “fat”; coming back with the question, “did you realize this yourself or did someone have to tell you?”… Or, “Yes, I’m fat; I can fix being fat but you cannot fix being stupid.”. In a nice mood, “duh, tell me something I don’t know.” Today people get insulted by this even when they know they are fat. So what? You’re fat; the person calling you fat doesn’t know your story, your struggles or anything about you; so why the hell do you get hurt by someone telling you something you already know? They do it to hurt you and you give them what they want.
STOP trying to read into words someone writes or speaks. Keep your reactions to yourself. If you react thinking someone called you self-centered or more concerned about money; yet they did not write those words; then you need to ask yourself seriously is the person who did not write that thinking these things or am I?
Words and how they are put together are important. Always be accountable for exactly what you say and NEVER be accountable for how someone interprets what you said. If you interpret anything other than the words I say or write, I cannot be responsible and will not be responsible for your conclusion and reaction. I did not say what you are thinking; you said it and thought it as I wasn’t even thinking what you said. So stop thinking for me.
Actions add to understanding a person when connected to words. You can say something one way, then create an action that goes against what you said even though they should not be connected in your mind. Understand I have action and words to make my thoughts and opinion. I do not have your thoughts as you act and only your words to connect what I see.
Your way may work for you, however do not expect your way to work for everyone and do not expect everyone to see your actions in the same way you perform the action. Everything is really as simple as cause and effect. Only you are responsible for how you feel to what someone says.
